Most of us tell little white lies all the time. Whether it's 'I'm five minutes away' or 'It must have gone to my spam folder', most of these fibs are harmless. But what if you realised that you weren't just lying about the little things, but the big 'life' stuff too?

When Toni Lodge sat down to write this memoir, she discovered that the lies she was telling herself were hiding some pretty important home truths-about her work, her identity and her mental health. Her dogged pursuit of these truths sent her on a brazen exploration of everything from gastro, fame and Twilight to funerals, the Dalai Lama and Brazilian waxes.


In this hilarious warm hug of a book, Toni exposes the lies she has told herself about who she is and what she is capable of, inviting you on a riotous romp that will make you laugh, cringe, cry and utterly rethink the truth behind the stories we tell ourselves.




'Hilarious, relatable and heartbreaking in equal measure. Toni's words will make you giggle and cry-on repeat.' Zara and Michelle from the Shameless podcast


'From fits of giggles to unexpected tears, this was like a besties road trip with Toni and a pure delight to read.' Sarah Davidson, host of the Seize the Yay podcast


'Nostalgic, tender, raw and laugh-out-loud funny. I loved it.' Chrissie Swan, television and radio presenter


'I absolutely love Toni. She is one of my heroes. So funny and relatable. I didn't read her book though, too busy.'Christian Hull, author of Leave Me Alone


'A nostalgic look back at our Australian childhoods, some questionable life advice and a hilarious explanation as to why Toni is the loveable hot mess she is today. Reading this book felt like hanging out with a best friend.'Ryan Jon, co-host of the Toni and Ryan podcast