A NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER * "A memoir in essays about so many things-growing up in an abusive cult, coming of age as a lesbian in the military, forced out by homophobia, living on the margins as a working class woman and what it's like to grow into the person you are meant to be. Hough's writing will break your heart." -Roxane Gay, author of Bad Feminist
Searing and extremely personal essays, shot through with the darkest elements America can manifest, while discovering light and humor in unexpected corners.
As an adult, Lauren Hough has had many identities: an airman in the U.S. Air Force, a cable guy, a bouncer at a gay club. As a child, however, she had none. Growing up as a member of the infamous cult The Children of God, Hough had her own self robbed from her. The cult took her all over the globe--to Germany, Japan, Texas, Chile-but it wasn't until she finally left for good that Lauren understood she could have a life beyond "The Family."
Along the way, she's loaded up her car and started over, trading one life for the next. She's taken pilgrimages to the sights of her youth, been kept in solitary confinement, dated a lot of women, dabbled in drugs, and eventually found herself as what she always wanted to be: a writer. Here, as she sweeps through the underbelly of America-relying on friends, family, and strangers alike-she begins to excavate a new identity even as her past continues to trail her and color her world, relationships, and perceptions of self.
At once razor-sharp, profoundly brave, and often very, very funny, the essays in Leaving Isn't the Hardest Thing interrogate our notions of ecstasy, queerness, and what it means to live freely. Each piece is a reckoning: of survival, identity, and how to reclaim one's past when carving out a future.
A VINTAGE ORIGINAL
A NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER * "A memoir in essays about so many things-growing up in an abusive cult, coming of age as a lesbian in the military, forced out by homophobia, living on the margins as a working class woman and what it's like to grow into the person you are meant to be. Hough's writing will break your heart." -Roxane Gay, author of Bad Feminist
Searing and extremely personal essays, shot through with the darkest elements America can manifest, while discovering light and humor in unexpected corners.
As an adult, Lauren Hough has had many identities: an airman in the U.S. Air Force, a cable guy, a bouncer at a gay club. As a child, however, she had none. Growing up as a member of the infamous cult The Children of God, Hough had her own self robbed from her. The cult took her all over the globe--to Germany, Japan, Texas, Chile-but it wasn't until she finally left for good that Lauren understood she could have a life beyond "The Family."
Along the way, she's loaded up her car and started over, trading one life for the next. She's taken pilgrimages to the sights of her youth, been kept in solitary confinement, dated a lot of women, dabbled in drugs, and eventually found herself as what she always wanted to be: a writer. Here, as she sweeps through the underbelly of America-relying on friends, family, and strangers alike-she begins to excavate a new identity even as her past continues to trail her and color her world, relationships, and perceptions of self.
At once razor-sharp, profoundly brave, and often very, very funny, the essays in Leaving Isn't the Hardest Thing interrogate our notions of ecstasy, queerness, and what it means to live freely. Each piece is a reckoning: of survival, identity, and how to reclaim one's past when carving out a future.
A VINTAGE ORIGINAL
LAUREN HOUGH was born in Germany and raised in seven countries and West Texas. She's been an airman in the U.S. Air Force, a green-aproned barista, a bartender, a livery driver, and, for a time, a cable guy. Her work has appeared in Granta, The Wrath-Bearing Tree, The Guardian, and HuffPost. She lives in Austin.
ONE OF THE BEST BOOKS OF THE YEAR: NPR, The Philadelphia
Inquirer
“Stark and riveting . . . searingly honest and often painfully
funny. . . . Hough’s conversational prose reads like the voice of a
blues singer, taking breaks between songs to narrate her heartbreak
in verse, cajoling her audience to laugh to keep from crying.”
—Leah Mirakhor, The New York Times Book Review
“Any appraisal of Lauren Hough that attempts to match the author’s
own coruscating honesty in her debut memoir-in-essays can only
conclude that she is the sort of hard-bitten hero who has no
expletives left to give . . . [Leaving Isn’t the Hardest Thing’s]
sometimes shocking circumstances are related using a potent
literary style that combines mordant humor and helpless indignation
with ferocious intellect . . . [Hough’s] salvation was the
discovery of an inimitable voice — her own, speaking truths about
human society that are hard to hear but not, sadly, to
believe.”
—Melissa Holbrook Pierson, The Washington Post
“Revealing and honest . . . [Hough] tells it like it is, and it's
heartbreaking . . . Hough's book isn't really a cult memoir — it's
about so much more than that (and it's also quite funny, although
you'll have to take my word on that because most of the funny bits
include expletives I can't quote here) . . . [Hough] makes the ties
between her own upbringing and the coltishness of American ideology
explicit, but also opens up room for hope via small acts of
resistance.”
—Ilana Masad, NPR
"Lauren Hough’s extraordinary essay collection Leaving Isn’t the
Hardest Thing is as powerful as it is poignant. So many moments in
this exceptionally crafted essays brought me to tears and before
long I would find myself laughing as Hough wielded her razor sharp
wit. This is a memoir in essays about so many things—growing up in
an abusive cult, coming of age as a lesbian in the military, forced
out by homophobia, living on the margins as a working class woman
and what it’s like to grow into the person you are meant to be.
Hough’s writing will break your heart. The ways she lays herself
bare will leave you marveling at the strength it takes to reveal
such delicate vulnerabilities. And when you come to the
breathtaking end, you will know what it means to be entrusted with
the beautifully messy truth of a person’s life. What an
overwhelming, unforgettable offering Hough has made. This is one of
those rare books that will instantly become part of the literary
canon and the world of letters will be better for it."
—Roxane Gay, author of Difficult Women
“Lauren Hough's Leaving Isn't the Hardest Thing is so brilliant, so
humane and pissed off and hysterically funny and thought-provoking,
and so beautifully written it's hard to describe except to say that
it's a book that is going to mean a lot to a lot of people, and it
might cause some fights, and you better read it so you can have the
pleasure of reading it and the pleasure of talking about it
with everyone. She is the kind of extraordinary writer who
could make anything interesting; that these essays are about her
own astonishing life, written with a clear eye and a sense of humor
so quick and black it hurts, and a kind of ruthlessness for herself
and others, means it's like no other book anywhere. I loved every
sentence. ”
—Elizabeth McCracken, author of Bowlaway
“Lauren Hough is the best new voice I’ve read in years: fiercely
honest, funny, brazen, and unrepentant. Best of all, the propulsive
storytelling of Leaving Isn’t the Hardest Thing is anchored by an
unexpected tenderness and vulnerability that will get you by the
throat every damn time. Like a petulant cross between David Sedaris
and Mary Karr, Hough is the genuine article. Leaving might not be
the hardest thing, but leaving this vibrant, heart-wrenching memoir
behind is damn near impossible.”
—Heather Havrilesky, Ask Polly columnist and author of What If
This Were Enough?
“This is a terrific book by a woman who has had an uncommonly
challenging life. Like nothing I have ever read.”
—Jon Krakauer, author of Missoula and Into the Wild, via
Instagram
“Leaving Isn’t the Hardest Thing truly blew me away. It’s like if
Maid by Stephanie Land and Educated by Tara Westover had an equally
talented and astute baby that started spitting f-bombs straight out
of the womb. Highly recommended!”
—Sarah Knight, author of F*ck No!, via Instagram
“She’s been in the military and worked as a bouncer and a ‘cable
guy’ — the essay about that job went viral — and now Hough has
written a memoir-in-essays about childhood in a cult, an adulthood
of seeking, and coming to terms with her desire to be a
writer.”
—The Boston Globe, “Summer Reading 2021”
“Leaving Isn’t the Hardest Thing is a captivating, globetrotting
memoir-in-essays that touches on themes of queerness, identity, and
survival in the face of chaos.”
—Bustle, “The Best New Books to Read This April”
“Oh, does Lauren Hough have a story to tell . . . These essays are
funny, profane and deceptively loose, as if Hough is talking to you
late at night in a quiet bar. But they’re also well crafted and
make unexpected connections among Hough’s disparate experiences,
her search for identity and the larger culture. Most of all,
Hough’s writing is about voice, and her distinctive style is what
carries the reader through. By the collection’s end, you feel you
know her, and you know she’s finding her own way through writing.
Hough is a writer to watch.”
—Sarah McCraw Crow, BookPage
“A thought-provoking and intimate collection of essays chronicling
the author's journey of self-discovery. From growing up in The
Children of God cult to joining the military and working as a
bouncer at a gay club, Hough approaches her fascinating life with
humor and wisdom as she traces the many twists and turns of her
story so far.”
—PopSugar, “The 25 Best Books of April Will Take You Around the
World (and Beyond)”
“Hough bravely and compellingly shares how our search for identity
can be searingly awful, wickedly funny, and totally worth it.”
—Real Simple, “The Best New Books to Read in 2021 (So Far)”
“This devastatingly candid and insightful collection of essays,
allows the reader into Hough’s world of growing up in a cult,
coming out as queer in the military and exploring identity and
notions of self at once humbling and emancipating.”
—Ms. Magazine, “April 2021 Reads for the Rest of Us”
“From her experiences as a queer woman in the military to working
as a bouncer, and more, there’s never a dull moment in this
riveting essay collection.”
—Reader’s Digest, “The 21 Best LGBTQ+ Books to Read Right Now”
“Moving . . . Hough draws a frank and funny account of her
extraordinary life in this collection of essays, which revolve
around her journey and her struggles to thrive instead of merely
survive.”
—Kate Lewis, Military Families Magazine
“Armed with a biting wit, a sharp eye for detail, and a laundry
list of grievances, Hough unloads on a life’s worth of absurd,
sometimes horrible experiences . . . Leaving Isn’t the Hardest
Thing offers a glimpse of another America and lets you try to
reconcile it with the one you know.”
—The Philadelphia Inquirer
“Searingly powerful . . . Even as she lays bare some of her most
intimate memories, Hough’s sharp humor and unflinching honesty
shines through, further highlighting her affecting story of
resilience.”
—Book Riot, “6 Stunning LGBTQ+ Books by Debut Authors to Read in
2021”
“Powerful . . . Hough’s direct, no bullshit manner will have you
laughing and nodding your head in agreement. If you are a fan of
memoir and books about moving through life overcoming any obstacle
in your way or, if, like me, you love reading about strong queer
people — then this book is for you!”
—Christina Pascucci-Ciampa, Boston Magazine
“Staggering slices of autobiography . . . Though Hough has lived
many lives—an airman, a cult survivor, a bartender—her brand of
deadpan candidness is singular.”
—Oprah Daily, “42 LGBTQ Books That Will Change the Literary
Landscape This Spring”
“Folks have been gushing about Lauren Hough’s memoir-in-essays for
what feels like years now thanks to the time-warp of 2020, and I
can’t wait to get my hands on a copy.”
—Eliza Smith, "Lit Hub's Most Anticipated Books of 2021"
“Lauren Hough is one hell of a writer . . . These alternatingly
heartbreaking and hilarious tales stand strong on their own, but as
a unit, they form a multi-faceted memoir-in-stories that is a true
delight . . . Weird and genuine and idiosyncratic, [Leaving Isn’t
the Hardest Thing is] a quality reading experience of the finest
kind. If you are interested in a unique and uniquely human read,
this collection is for you.”
—The Maine Edge
“For readers who have known hardships, discrimination, moments of
skull-crushing despair, [Leaving Isn’t the Hardest Thing] will feel
like coming home.”
—Julie Poole, The Texas Observer
“[Leaving Isn't the Hardest Thing] is a killer debut, as riveting
for its content as it is for its captivating style.”
—BookPage, "2021 preview: Most anticipated nonfiction"
“These essays mine [Hough's] eclectic, fascinating life and her
efforts to create her own identity. Plus, she's a fabulous
writer."
—Deborah Dundas, The Toronto Star
“[Hough’s] writing is candid and harrowing . . . A page-turning
account of belonging and not belonging, and what it means to start
over.”
—Library Journal, starred
“An edgy and unapologetic memoir in essays.”
—Kirkus
“This moving account of resilience and hard-earned agency brims
with a fresh originality.”
—Publishers Weekly
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