Real Rape, Real Pain is a book may make you feel

uncomfortable, in that it tackles the violence and unpleasantness

of rape within marriage; it forces us to confront the hidden

violence in our society. It challenges the silence and secrecy about

marital rape. As the authors say, "Violence is about using power

and control, not about being out of control. There is no excuse for

marital violence ever."

The aims of the book are changing the rape culture and helping

survivors. Chapters cover identifying rape in marriage, women at

risk, staying with a partner who has raped you, sexuality after

partner rape, a safety plan, and numerous other issues related to

partner rape.

As American author Monika Ostroff says, "Real Rape, Real Pain

is the compassionate, loving friend that reaches into the darkness

to the sufferer of partner rape, offering hope and help for a

healthy life, free from violence. A wise teacher, this book will

inform everyone from professionals working in the field to family

members of women being victimized to politicians who are

empowered to make the necessary changes to ensure safety on all

our behalves. This book is a beacon of light that illuminates a

dark, misunderstood yet incredibly common phenomenon of

violence. It is a must-read for every survivor, family member,

clinician, and politician!"